from THE daughter..

Assalamualaikum, hey there people!! i'm THE daughter (no offense Kak Lia) ;p

first of all, i would like to congratulate abah who we can now acknowledge as a modern dad =)
come on, who else can boast around saying their dad-of-5 is a blogger?

exclusive Tun Dr. Mahathir of course who would have surpass my father with having grandchildren, which would make him a modern grandaddy..

Duh, he is after all Bapa Pemodenan..

Anyway, a couple of days ago, i witnessed not a crime scene(funny how people always relate witnessing to crime), but a grown up man playing rounders with a bunch of kids at the playground in a housing area..the grown up man is simply a dad, spending time to play with his two sons and other kids at the park.

you are probably saying 'so?' at this very minute right?

but tell me, how many dads do you know in this millenium age that would play with his sons at the playground just after returning home from work?how many dad that would not only be the pitcher, but also hit the ball, making the home run, then wheezing after the run as he is known to be asthmatic?how many would actually tend to their kids after a long busy day?

many though would put the blame on work..

if i was to be the other kids at the playground, i would be jealous at the 2 boys for having such a dad..but you know what? i needn't be..

he IS my dad.

and he's definitely beaming when he reads this =D

Ibu bapa tidak peduli keselamatan anak

Utusan Malaysia - 27 Mei 2008

Akhirnya pihak berkuasa merasai betapa perlunya Akta Kanak-kanak 2001 dikuatkauasakan. Tindakan tegas ini sudah tentu berdasarkan kepada berberapa kejadian kehilangan dan pembunuhan keatas kanak-kanak yang tidak berdosa.

Namun penguatkuasaan undang-undang sahaja tidak memadai sekiranya pihak berwajib gagal mengambil tindakan tegas terhadap pihak-pihak yang melanggar undang-undang. Malahan ada pula yang mendakwa bahawa ibu bapa tidak boleh dipersalahkan di atas perlakuan anak-anak mereka atau sesuatu kejadian yang menimpa kanak-kanak di luar pengetahuan ibu bapa.

Bagaimana akta ini perlu dikuatkan bagi memelihara kanak-kanak dan menimbulkan sikap tanggungjawab ibubapa terhadap anak-anak mereka. Zaman sekarang bukan lagi seperti penulis kecil-kecil dalam tahun 50an dulu. Di kala itu tidak siapa yang mahu menculik kanak-kanak atau membunuh sesiapa tanpa alasan kecuali penganas komunis. Kanak-kanak bebas boleh bermain di mana sahaja. Cuma kanak-kanak bertempiaran lari melihat polis, atau orang berbangsa Sikh atau sesiapa sahaja yang membawa guni.

Kadang-kadang orang itu cuma gembala kambing atau lembu kaum India. Di kala itu cerita tersebar luas mengenai kejadian memotong kepala untuk dibuat persembahan membina jambatan dan sebagainya. Tidak tahulah betul atau tidak, pokoknya cerita-cerita seumpama itu sahajalah yang membuat kanak-kanak tidak berani keluar rumah.

Tetapi di zaman moden dan serba kemewahan ini kejadian mengabaikan dan membahayakan boleh dilihat di mana-mana. Umpamanya kanak-kanak dalam lingkungan 12 tahun telah mula menonggang motosikal tanpa lesen dan topi keledar. Perkara ini diketahui ibu bapa tetapi mereka tdak memperdulikannya. Terdapat pula bapa yang "makan angin" dengan motosikal membawa isteri dan anak-anak kecil, semuanya tanpa topi keledar. Kanak-kanak kecil dalam lingkungan belum bersekolah tersepit ditengah-tengah ibu dan bapa.

Ada kalanya ibu bapa memakai topi keledar sementara kanak-kanak kecil dibiarkan tanpa memakai apa-apa, Jelas sekali mereka hanya mementingkan diri sendiri dan tidak anak-anak. Sementara yang mempunyai kereta pula sering meletak anak ditempat duduk hadapan tanpa tali pinggang keledar dan ada kala berdiri sambil mengeluarkan tangan melalui tingkap. Ada juga yang meriba anak ketika memandu kononnya sayangkan anak.

Terdapat juga anak-anak yang dibiarkan bermain di bahagian belakang kereta tanpa tali pinggang keledar. Paling teruk, ada ibu bapa yang membenarkan anak-anak mereka menjadi mat rempit. Mereka bagaimanapun akan marah dan menyesal apabila anak-anak mereka terlibat dalam kemalangan.

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Isu utamanya adalah antara suka dengan tidak, ibu bapa mempunyai peranan yang sangat penting bagi memastikan keselamatan anak-anak. Kita perlu mengambil berat setiap apa yang mereka lakukan. Bak kata pepatah melayu "sesal dahulu pendapatan, sesal kemudian tiada gunanya" ataupu "nasi sudah menjadi bubur". Bagaimanapun tepuk dada tanya selera. Cuma jangan salahkan takdir bila berlaku kemalangan ke atas keluarga sendiri.

TAHUKAH ANDA DIMANA ANAK-ANAK ANDA BERADA SEKARANG???

Vacation Driving

Its the last day of school today, which means the beginning of two weeks break for the children. Most parents would have considered to take the children somewhere, or at least "balik kampung". We thought of doing that this break, however due to other plans & commitments, we have decided to shelve the idea, moreover, my mother in law will be coming from KT.

Those driving please make sure that you and your car are ready, be ready to stop and be ready for any eventuality. Have a nice trip be safe all the time. Always remember the journey is the most important part of the trip until you reach your destination.

On the other hand, during the MAS promotion of 0 fare, we thought of going to Kuching somewhere in November or December, however it seem that we were to slow or the others were just like vultures waiting to grab all available seats. A friend of mine, tried the Air Asia offer to Perth, Australia ... tried just after midnight and only got through by early morning, for a family of 8, it still cost him RM6000.00. Talk about Malaysian spending and vacationing ... wow

Office Politics ...

Yesterday when I pick my wife from the office, the first remark she said was 'alamak tak ada aircond' ... dah lah kita tengah panas ni, (the car air cond is not working ... so we gets free sauna for now). Well after awhile as the car was moving and the wind gets in to cool the ambiance, she talks about what happen in a meeting. As someone who had been involved in human resources, administration and management for quite awhile, I realised that its all about office politics.

Its always a case of someone and or a group of colleague who actually feels threaten by what you do and finding ways to belittle you or finding fault on you. To me this are small people that tries to "blow your candle" in order to his or her candle to shine better. This happens all the time as long as you deal with people.

Thats why ... sometimes we meet people who are PHD (perasaan hasad dengki) without being confered by any Universities. Then again ... there are those who are actually with Phd that play office politics ... that means double PHD

This world are full of opportunities as long as one strive to do their best. Let your candle shine, because its the brightest of all. Be proud of what you do as long as you have given it your heart and soul.

To my dearest wife ... I know you have given your best so take pride and ignore those small people. Love you.

Nuraina A Samad's 3540 Jalan Sudin: Tuesdays With Bapak

Nuraina A Samad's 3540 Jalan Sudin: Tuesdays With Bapak

Get together

19th May is a public holiday, and so my wife who is a great cook decided to get the family member (KT side)together for lunch. Well actually our younger sister (su & nizam) insyaallah are expecting a baby, and so they did some teasing around. So we had a good lunch of Nasi Ayam.

Except for Abang Zaini & Kak Ma who actually had gone back to KT to visit my mother in law, all (Abang Zam, Che Dah & Nadia, Che Su, Nizam, Haziq & Hani, Along, Shah & Alia, Angah & Nami) came except for wawa (our niece) who is studying in MRSM Kuala Lipis. We had pineapple turnover cake with vanilla ice cream for desert.

Keeping family together is great as long as there are good food, however more important that all of us should always take note are as we interact we must always remember some where unknowingly we might say or do things that might hurt others sometimes by mere words and others by actions that we do not realize. As long as all involved are ever ready to give and take family ties remain.

Selamat Hari Lahir ... Mak

70 tahun yang lalu, Allah telah mengurniakan alam ini dengan seorang insan yang di beri nama Bastiah binti Ismail, di Klang, Selangor. Maka bermulalah satu perjalanan yang menarik serta pengalaman yang berbagai. Banyak yang telah beliau lalui, suka duka, manis pahit dan sebagainya. Apa jua, beliau tabah dan hari ini telah genaplah beliau mengelilingi matahari sebanyak tujuhpuluh (70) kali.

Yang menariknya, hari ini juga dikenali sebagai hari guru, yang mana beliau sememangnya seorang yang telah mendidik kami adik beradik seramai 6 orang dengan penuh kasih sayang. Tidak ada apa yang dapat diberikan yang dapat dikira sebagai hadiah yang dapat menandingi apa yang telah beliau curahkan. Agar kita dapat sentiasa meluangkan sedikit dari masa kita untuknya dari setiap 24jam yang Allah kurniakan kepada kita setiap hari, atau berberapa minit dari 1 minggu yang kita ada.

Hari ini, Mak dan Baba akan ke Miri, Sarawak bersama Sham. Selamat Hari Lahir Mak, semoga HIDAYAH Allah bersama mu selamat selalu dan Insyaallah kita jumpa lagi hari Isnin. Salam sayang dari Angah, Nie, Lia, Thira, Adam, Ayyub & Isha

Update

** Mum and Dad arrived home safely on monday 19th May, tired but ok.

Mother and Mothers Day

Yesterday 11th May 2008 were designated as mothers day. When my son asked me earlier I said mothers day should be everyday. However he insisted ... just because there is this one day all over the world known as Mothers Day. Anyway there is this story that I would like to share about BEING A MOTHER as shared by an acquaintance from Nigeria awhile back....

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. What's wrong, are you well, " she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation ia a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you" I responded. " Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous, When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car." They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a nice restaurant that, although not elegant, was nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read the large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who use to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me retun the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was you dnner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time"

Somebody said ...

... it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby ... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.

... you learn how to be a mother by instinct ... somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

... being a mother is boring ... somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

... if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good" ... somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

... "good" mothers never raise their voices ... somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

... you don't need an education to be a mother ... somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

... you can't love the second child as much as you love the first ... somebody doesn't have two children.

... a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books ... somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

... the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery ... somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."

... a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ... somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

... a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married ... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

... a mother's job is done when her last child leave home ... somebody never had grandchildren.

... your mother knows you lave her, so you don't need to tell her ... somebody isn't a mother.

This isn't just about being a mother, it's about appreciating the people in your life while you have them ... no matter who that person is.

Well, my mum got bless her "insyallah" - "god willing" shall be 70 (1938) this May 16th, which incidentally will also be "Teachers Day", and she is one great MOTHER and Grandmother to 16 grandchildrens. I LOVE YOU MUM ( we call her mak).