Friday, February 18, 2011

Mak dan Baba

Wednesday, 16th February 2011

Took Baba to Hospital Putrajaya for his regular Blood Transfusion (every 3 weeks), and today he need to be transfused only by 1 pint, of the regular 2 and occasionally 3 pint or bags. Sham took him yesterday for the regular check with the Doctor. When I arrived, a little bit late than usual, he is ready to go, Ateh took Mum to Klinik Kesihatan Seksyen 7, for her regular checkup also as usual, except that it coincide with Baba today.

Left about 12.40pm, because no one to cover to pick up Adam, Ayyub and alisha from School, so Sham took over, they are home by about 4pm.

Mum call, saying that she will no be able to attend ngaji tonite, as she's not well, her leg has a minor cut, due to a fall.

Thursday, 17th February 2011

Checked on Mum and Dad. Mum's cut was not bad, but somehow the bleeding was quite heavy, after some basic dressing and a new plaster, plus some ice to ease the ache, hopefully she should be better.

Earlier, read an email from Sham, and here's the story ...



Let us Learn to appreciate by reading this story………..really heart wrenching moment.

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the
postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, "Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, "Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, "Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, "please tell me your feelings."

The youth said,
Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not be the successful me today.
Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The
company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them
experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.


At home, trying to get the children to understand responsibility is such a job, getting angry and upset is easy, wondering whether they realise that do it right the first time, doing it when you were asked and helping whenever possible should be natural. Things like ...

Kitchen
  1. Wash at least your own plate and glass after use.
  2. Clean the sink afterward
  3. Clear and cover what's left on the table.

Internet
  • Keep up to the curfew, 12 midnite, and if really you got work to do, soonest possible. Better still, sleep early and wake up early to continue.

Toilet/Washroom
  1. Doa - A'uzubika minnal khubutsi wal khabaits'
  2. Close the door
  3. Maintain cleanliness and keSUCIan.
  4. Doa - Ghufranaka
  5. Close the door, switch off the lights.
  6. Flush as you go

Friday, February 11, 2011

EGO ...

Dari Berita Harian, 11022011 oleh Hidayah Mohammad


Pada awal perhubungan, mungkin tidak nampak sifat dan sikap sebenar seseorang pasangan. Semuanya indah belaka. Bila semakin lama, mula lah berlaku berbagai kepincangan, perselisihan faham hinggakan natijahnya mencetuskan perbalahan yang akhirnya membawa perpisahan. Salah satu punca yang sukar disedari ialah sifat ego yang tidak boleh dilihat dengan mata kasar.

Rata-rata wanita gemar menuduh lelaki tinggi ego, sebaliknya, si lelaki pula akan menyalahkan wanita sehingga menyebabkan persengketaan. Berikutan masing-masing suka menuding jari menyalahkan antara satu sama lain. Sifat ego bukan saja menjadi masaalah dalam hubungan pasangan bercinta, malah turut menjadi isu dalam keluarga, ipar duai, tempat bekerja dan hubungan kemasyarakatan.

Bagi yang tidak sedar, memiliki sifat ego, penulis yang jugapenuh dengan sifat ego, merungkai sifat berkenaan tanpa disedari oleh rata-rata manusiadi muka bumi ini. Sifat buruk itu hanya dapat diubah oleh diri sendiri, sebaliknya sifat ego yang semulajadi sukar untuk diubah oleh orang lain. Sekiranya dikatakan lelaki lebih ego daripada wanita memang ada betul nya, tetapi itu mungkin wujud 15 tahun lalu yang mana lelaki lebih dominan daripada wanita. namun zaman sudah berubah.

Wanita banyak yang menimba ilmu hingga ke menara gading dan ramai yang berkerjaya, jadi mata pencarian keluarga datang juga dari wanita. Maka, ego akan terhasildaripada duit, harta, kepandaian, status dan gaya hidup yang tinggi, selain dipengaruhi oleh rakan sekeliling dan sifat peribadi seseorang. sehubungan itu, zaman moden tidak kira lelaki atau wanita sama saja.

Ego juga datang dengan kuasa yang ada pada seseorang. Contohnya, lelaki yang tidak berpelajaran tinggi, tidak berharta dan tidak kacak, tapi masih ada lagi ego terhadap isteri berikutan lelaki sudah dicop sebagai "ketua keluarga" oleh masyarakat. Jadi, ketua di sini mempunyai kuasa dalam menentukan hala tuju keluarga. Itu juga penyumbang kepada sifat ego.

Walaubagaimanapun, ego perlu ada sebagai perisai untuk menjada maruah, tapi mestilah berpadadan kena pada tempat.

Sifat ego adalah penyakit batin, iaitu ia adalah abstrak atau maknawiyah, yang tidak dapat dilihat dengan mata kasar. namun tetap dapat dkesan melalui tanda lahiriah pada sikap seseorang itu. Atau dengan kata lain, sifat ego itu ada manifestasi atau implikasinya. Berdasarkan sikap dan tanda terserlah itu lah, kita dapat mengenali seseorang itu memiliki sifat ego.

Antara fakta dan tanda-tanda sifat ego:-

  1. Bila jawapan yang diber betul, dia akan rasa terhibur, senan hati dan bangga.
  2. Jika tidak dilantik memegang sesuatu jawatan, dia akan rasa kecewa dan tidak tenang.
  3. Jika seorang ketua, dia selalu bersikap kasar ketika member arahan.
  4. Jika orang bawahan, dia susah untuk taat dan bersikap degil.
  5. Mudah marah bila dinasihati.
  6. Emotional dan mudah tersinggung.
  7. Memilih kawan yang setaraf dengannya.
  8. Menonjolkan diri secara berlebihan.
  9. Memperlekehkan orang lain.
  10. Suka menyampuk perbualan orang lain.
  11. Buruk sangka terhadap orang lain.
  12. Suka meninggikan suara ketika bercakap.

Untuk mengenali sifat-sifat ego :-

  • Menolak kebenaran, tidak mahu menerima pandangan orang lain. Sering saja bercekak pinggang sebagai gambaran membesar diri. Sifat egonya itu terserlah menerusi perbuatan bercekak pinggang biarpun tanpa disedarinya.
  • Selalu berwajah serius dan masam, ditambah pula dengan sikap yang kurang mesra.
  • Sangat memilih kawan terutama dalam kalangan orang yang setaraf saja.
  • Mudah menjadi marah terutama kalau orang lain yang membuat silap, lebih-lebih lagi kalau kesilapan itu tertimpa keatas dirinya.
  • Sangat mudah tercabar oleh kebaikan orang lain


Oleh yang demikian, dalam usaha menjadi seorang iman yang takwa kepada Allah, kita perlu sentiasa memastikan bahawa kita tidak terjerumus kearah peribadi yang buruk secara sengaja atau tidak sengaja. Kita perlu fikirkan apa kita rasa sekiranaya orang memperlihatkan keegoannya kepada kita. Kalau kita kurang selesa, serupa juga sekiranya kita memperlakukan sedemikian terhadap orang lain.


Akhir kata, kepada Allah kita berserah, yang tua kita hormati, yang muda kita sayangi, insyaallah kita berjaya dunia dan akhirat.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Eighty today ... Happy Birthday

As much as today is just another day, and celebrating birthday is not so much that important, just to reflect of a day where it is easier to remember, to day is a very special day.

Yes ... because Baba reached another milestone.

Today is his eightieth birthday and alhamdulillah, we are very thankful for such a gift and and with that we (wife, sons [4], daughters [2], daughter in-law [4], son in-law [1], grandson [8], grand daughter [8] and grand daughter in-law [1]) hope for good health and happiness always.

However ... just got news from A1, he is not well ... anyway we are always thankful for his good health and being not well is a norm we must learn to accept graciously and make time for.

May Allah keep you in his hidayah always, insyaallah.

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Thinking of compiling a pictorial biography, A journey of eighty years.


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If the calculation is correct, the date according to Hijrah should be 20th Ramadhan 1349.