Relationship ...

How do you explain relationship???

In a family there are direct and indirect relationship. If we take human as a case subject, when and how it started? For all those who believed, Prophet Adam AS was the first human created, and later on it was Hawa created to be his wife. And therefore onward the humankind as we know today.

THANK YOU FOR YOU TIME

My sister send this story by E Mail recently, and think it is only appropriate that it is place here ...


THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME. ONCE YOU READ THIS
YOU WILL UNDERSTAND!

A young man learns what's most important in life from the guy next door. It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way. In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams. There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him.
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Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days. "Jack, did you hear me?" "Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said. "Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him. "I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said. "You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said "He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important... Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said.
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As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away. The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time. Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture... .Jack stopped suddenly. "What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked. "The box is gone," he said "What box?" Mom asked. "There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said. It was gone.
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Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it. "Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom." It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read. Early the next day Jack retrieved the package.
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The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. Harold Belser" it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package.
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There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside. "Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch. Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words ngraved: "Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser." "The thing he valued most was...my time"
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Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked. "I need some time to spend with my son," he said. "Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!" "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away,"
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Think about this. You may not realize it, but it's 100% true.
1. At least 2 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.
4. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
5. You mean the world to someone.
6. If not for you, someone may not be living.
7. You are special and unique.
8. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you trust God to do what's best, and wait on His time, sooner or later, you will get it or something better.
9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can still come from it.
10. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.
11. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.
12. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.
13. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know and you'll both be happy .
14. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.
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Send this letter to all the people you care about, if you do so, you will certainly brighten someone's day and might change their perspective on life...for the better.
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To everyone I sent this to " Thanks for your time".

Happenings @1416,9teen31

Nie is actually away in Taman Negara since Wednesday 27th August, Insyallah, she should be back on Sunday, 31st being Merdeka Day. The boys took the opportunity to sleep in our room, however still unable to convince Lisha, she came in early this morning.

Lia drove to UiTMKL today, arrived ok and arrived home okay. Later on she pick up Thira for the weekend. Monday is a holiday, a replacement for Merdeka Day that fall on Sunday.

Insyallah we shall start fasting on 1st Ramadhan, and that probably be on Monday, 1st September 2008

A1- 48th Today

Happy Birthday Bro,

48 years ago today, a baby boy was born to the couple Mohd Hussain and Bastiah. That's my brother, he is 1 year older than me. Married with 3 children (Arif, Tiqa & Nana). Somehow we are not that close, and yet that is how life is.

He is an imej consultant, and is very good at what he does.

Anyway, once again, happy birthday bro, may Allah SWT blessed you with his HIDAYAH always. Although I never really mention this to face on, love you always.

From all of us @1416,9teen31,shahalam.

Being Hospitable

Abang Mi and family were visiting over the weekend because Izzati, his elders daughter Convocation at UNITEN.The whole family came and it was good for the cousins to play with. Adam, Ayyub and Lisha were very happy entertaining the twins, while Lia and Thira with the other elder girls.

Between our two family there are al together 11 children ours 5 and Abang Mi 6. Of the eleven, unfortunately, Ahmad Alif Aizat is out of the group being a boy and out of age.He seems to be lost and out of place and resort to HP games and/or SMS, I pity that boy but is of no help either.

Yesterday they, they send Ain to KLIA enroute to Sarawak before going back to KT.

Been Busy Lately

Since the last entry, has been busy for reason that cannot be justify. Well what has happen all this while? Some of the issues such as what to write or rather type. The availability of internet access and what ever ... What can I remember ...

Nizam & Su, got a baby boy on the 31st July 2008, and until so recently baby no-name is Hafiy Wajdi, hopefully I got the spelling right.

What else ..... maybe later

Time 2 study

After more than 6 months of relaxing at home, thira registered for Asasi Sains at UiTM Shah Alam, as she will now start for her journey to a University life, and god willing achieve her dreams.

Good luck my girl, Kak Lia had completed her Diploma recently and shall register for her degree on Monday. However, she will be in Jalan Othman.

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Well Kak Lia, will be at Kolej Alamanda, UiTM Kuala Lumpur, which is located at Jalan Klang Lama. Degree in Physioterapy (Honours)

More children can mean fewer teeth for moms

thesun-tuesday, june 10th 2008

A German folk saying thatb means "every child costs the mother one tooth" may hold a lot of truth. Women who gave birth to more children tended to lose moreteeth during their lives, regardless of whether they were rich or poor, US researcher found.

They examined data on 2635 American women ages between 18 to 64, sorting the nationally representatives sample into three categories - low , middle and high socioeconomics status. In the highest socioeconomic group, women with no children were missing on average less than one tooth, those with one child were missing about two teeth and those with four or more were missing about five teeth.

Among the women in the lowest socioeconomic group, those with no children on average were missing two teeth,those with one child were missing an average of three teeth and those with four or more were missing more than eight teeth. The trendalso held true in the middle-economic group, said the researchers at New York University and Yale University in Connecticut. "It seems that having more children is related to having fewer teeth," New York University dental professor Dr Stefanie Russell, who led the research published in the American Journal of Public Health, said in a telephone interview.

"People might say that happens because women who are poor have more children and women who are poor are not going to be able to effort the dentist," she said. "But we found that it was true across all socioeconomics levels." The study did not break down the result by race. This was the first large US study to show such findings, Russell said. Earlier studies elsewhere have shown similar results, in particular Scandinavian research from the 1980s.

Women are more prone to gingivitis during pregnancy, when the response of the oral tissues to the bacteria in the mouth is altered, Russell said. Gingivitis occurs when bacteria build up between the teeth and gums, causing inflammation and bleeding. Untreated it can lead to more serious gum disease and eventually tooth loss.

In addition, Russel said, womenmay be less likely to see a dentist while pregnant, perhaps in part because they want to avoid dental X-rays due to concerns over radiation exposure. women with multiple children may also forgo their own dental care, possibly due to lack of money or time, Russell said. - Reuters

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Women in general should look at this problem which most of the time are related to low calcium, even more during pregnancies as it is Allah's will that the child shall get the amount required from the mother should the amount is insufficient to share between them. Therefore drink more milk or go for Calcium Magnesium supplement.

from THE daughter..

Assalamualaikum, hey there people!! i'm THE daughter (no offense Kak Lia) ;p

first of all, i would like to congratulate abah who we can now acknowledge as a modern dad =)
come on, who else can boast around saying their dad-of-5 is a blogger?

exclusive Tun Dr. Mahathir of course who would have surpass my father with having grandchildren, which would make him a modern grandaddy..

Duh, he is after all Bapa Pemodenan..

Anyway, a couple of days ago, i witnessed not a crime scene(funny how people always relate witnessing to crime), but a grown up man playing rounders with a bunch of kids at the playground in a housing area..the grown up man is simply a dad, spending time to play with his two sons and other kids at the park.

you are probably saying 'so?' at this very minute right?

but tell me, how many dads do you know in this millenium age that would play with his sons at the playground just after returning home from work?how many dad that would not only be the pitcher, but also hit the ball, making the home run, then wheezing after the run as he is known to be asthmatic?how many would actually tend to their kids after a long busy day?

many though would put the blame on work..

if i was to be the other kids at the playground, i would be jealous at the 2 boys for having such a dad..but you know what? i needn't be..

he IS my dad.

and he's definitely beaming when he reads this =D

Vacation Driving

Its the last day of school today, which means the beginning of two weeks break for the children. Most parents would have considered to take the children somewhere, or at least "balik kampung". We thought of doing that this break, however due to other plans & commitments, we have decided to shelve the idea, moreover, my mother in law will be coming from KT.

Those driving please make sure that you and your car are ready, be ready to stop and be ready for any eventuality. Have a nice trip be safe all the time. Always remember the journey is the most important part of the trip until you reach your destination.

On the other hand, during the MAS promotion of 0 fare, we thought of going to Kuching somewhere in November or December, however it seem that we were to slow or the others were just like vultures waiting to grab all available seats. A friend of mine, tried the Air Asia offer to Perth, Australia ... tried just after midnight and only got through by early morning, for a family of 8, it still cost him RM6000.00. Talk about Malaysian spending and vacationing ... wow

Office Politics ...

Yesterday when I pick my wife from the office, the first remark she said was 'alamak tak ada aircond' ... dah lah kita tengah panas ni, (the car air cond is not working ... so we gets free sauna for now). Well after awhile as the car was moving and the wind gets in to cool the ambiance, she talks about what happen in a meeting. As someone who had been involved in human resources, administration and management for quite awhile, I realised that its all about office politics.

Its always a case of someone and or a group of colleague who actually feels threaten by what you do and finding ways to belittle you or finding fault on you. To me this are small people that tries to "blow your candle" in order to his or her candle to shine better. This happens all the time as long as you deal with people.

Thats why ... sometimes we meet people who are PHD (perasaan hasad dengki) without being confered by any Universities. Then again ... there are those who are actually with Phd that play office politics ... that means double PHD

This world are full of opportunities as long as one strive to do their best. Let your candle shine, because its the brightest of all. Be proud of what you do as long as you have given it your heart and soul.

To my dearest wife ... I know you have given your best so take pride and ignore those small people. Love you.

Nuraina A Samad's 3540 Jalan Sudin: Tuesdays With Bapak

Nuraina A Samad's 3540 Jalan Sudin: Tuesdays With Bapak

Get together

19th May is a public holiday, and so my wife who is a great cook decided to get the family member (KT side)together for lunch. Well actually our younger sister (su & nizam) insyaallah are expecting a baby, and so they did some teasing around. So we had a good lunch of Nasi Ayam.

Except for Abang Zaini & Kak Ma who actually had gone back to KT to visit my mother in law, all (Abang Zam, Che Dah & Nadia, Che Su, Nizam, Haziq & Hani, Along, Shah & Alia, Angah & Nami) came except for wawa (our niece) who is studying in MRSM Kuala Lipis. We had pineapple turnover cake with vanilla ice cream for desert.

Keeping family together is great as long as there are good food, however more important that all of us should always take note are as we interact we must always remember some where unknowingly we might say or do things that might hurt others sometimes by mere words and others by actions that we do not realize. As long as all involved are ever ready to give and take family ties remain.

Mother and Mothers Day

Yesterday 11th May 2008 were designated as mothers day. When my son asked me earlier I said mothers day should be everyday. However he insisted ... just because there is this one day all over the world known as Mothers Day. Anyway there is this story that I would like to share about BEING A MOTHER as shared by an acquaintance from Nigeria awhile back....

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. What's wrong, are you well, " she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation ia a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you" I responded. " Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous, When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car." They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a nice restaurant that, although not elegant, was nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read the large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who use to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me retun the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was you dnner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time"

Somebody said ...

... it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby ... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.

... you learn how to be a mother by instinct ... somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

... being a mother is boring ... somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

... if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good" ... somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

... "good" mothers never raise their voices ... somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

... you don't need an education to be a mother ... somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

... you can't love the second child as much as you love the first ... somebody doesn't have two children.

... a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books ... somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

... the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery ... somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."

... a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ... somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

... a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married ... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

... a mother's job is done when her last child leave home ... somebody never had grandchildren.

... your mother knows you lave her, so you don't need to tell her ... somebody isn't a mother.

This isn't just about being a mother, it's about appreciating the people in your life while you have them ... no matter who that person is.

Well, my mum got bless her "insyallah" - "god willing" shall be 70 (1938) this May 16th, which incidentally will also be "Teachers Day", and she is one great MOTHER and Grandmother to 16 grandchildrens. I LOVE YOU MUM ( we call her mak).

Honouring parents ... the Star, April 21st 2008

I read this and I like to share ...

Of the 100 Chinese values, filial piety is the one of most significant in Chinese culture, says Chinese educationist Datuk Sim Mow Yu, who is a Buddhist and Confucianist.

In ancient times, Chinese emperors emphasised the importance of filial piety and even went down on their knees to pay respects to their departed elders. "Confucius, the sage of China, wrote a book on filial piety. He taught everyone to practice filial piety". They should be cautious and care for the elderly until they are old and gone. Even after their demise, they must remember them.

The Chinese instil the impotance of filial piety in their children from a very young age. That is why they are able to live together in harmony for generations. In the old days, the Chinese would never allow their parents to be taken care of by others. There were no old folks' home too during that time. In Eastern culture, children and grandchildren are relied upon to fulfil their obligations of looking after the elderly.

Changing times have also affected the way elderly parents are being treated. "With extended families, the grandchildren can spend time with their grandparents, and the family is more closely knit. There is more warmth in such house holds."

"If elderly parents are sent to old folks home, maybe due to changing times, or are unable to care for their elderly, because of their career or some how due to the Western influence which brought about a shift in cultural practice, they should not just pact them off to such centres and forget about them."

My mom always say, A mother can take care of her children no matter how many of them, yet the children no matter (1 or 10) cannot take care of their parents.

Sundays ...

The day that most of us tend to take easy, cos' it suppose to be an off day, so take your own sweet time ... relax. Its the same in most family, mine included. Usually and everyday, we have the responsibility for "suboh" prayers. Taking it seriously, those who understood, will wake up to perform the prayers as expected of them, unfortunately for some its a chore taken likely. Than we could do other things or ... back to bed.

My wife and I, we make it a point to do some light excercise by walking at the Shah Alam Lake. However today the two girls (lia & thira) and izzati(our niece) did not follow because they wanted to just relax in bed.

IF ONLY ...

Most of the time we take things for granted or sometimes procrastinate on things that we wanted to do. On the other hand we sometimes wants to do big things and forget the small ones. I would like to share this writing I read recently :

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable.

As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperated attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it.

And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only change myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even chenged the world.

Anonymous

Let us all take note that start with us now and not ... IF ONLY

Father In Law

When I wrote last Wednesday, I actually thought about myself, because mine passed away quite awhile back, and therefore (father In Law) was sort of omitted. However soon after I realised that just because mine is no longer with us, doesn't mean that others do not have one.

Since I am writing a little bit about him(we called him BAB), he is one 'cool guy' ... or in another word he always calm and relaxed. He doesn't talk much, but somehow you know he really cares, although in not so many words. One incident that I shall always remember, when one day I was grumbling to him about Lia who wanted to eat out, either at the one of the hotel or the club. His remark was ... well who actually teach her those places!!!

That statement, although short, was right on the nose. I alway remind myself that we as parents are the one who set the examples. AlFatiha to you BAB.

Recreated

Actually due to unforseen circumstances, or more so due to old age, I had to recreate this blog because I could not access the original one (i.e : myfamily-familiku). Hence, effective immediately or unless otherwise inform that blog will not be active.

Why this Blog

Dear All,

All of us have a family, and this blog is dedicated to all family, however more significant to my family.

In the Oxford English Mini Dictionary : family - parents and their children, a person's children, a set of relatives. As for me ... Dad, Mum, Mother In Law, Wife, Sons & Daughters (Lia please don't mind this arrangement), Brothers & Brother In Laws, Sisters & Sister In Laws, Nephews & Nieces, Uncles & Aunties, Grandfathers & Grandmothers, Cousins and all those who are related, directly or indirectly ... and also grandchildren as well (Alia).

Than again, sometimes in a bigger spectrum, whoever we are happy to consider a part us, because they generate good things when we are with them. So ... actually it is really subjective isn't it?

This idea came actually as I was driving Wednesday - 16th April 2008. In my own personal family, we have issues that are happening and it is my wish that somehow we could highlight them in the best interest of all within our immediate family, and somehow benefit others as well.

Let us be frank, however please do remember that we love them and we only wants the best for us all. Sometimes, certain comments or opinion might hurt as if it is directed specifically to (you). However, what is more important is that can it benefit us. On the other hand, as human we can never be without fault.

All because we care ... and we do.

Love you.